The Trend of Female Infantilism: Why It's Fashionable to Avoid Traditional Commitments

The well-known phrase "Nobody owes anyone anything in this life" is understood by many of us in a literal, yet extremely selfish sense. While in reality, obligations have always been an integral part of any sphere of our lives.

It is worth recognizing that, in everyday terms, modern life has become significantly easier, and one could get stuck trying to count the number of smart gadgets that have taken on a lion's share of household chores. Moreover, we are now genuinely learning to delegate responsibilities that were previously considered exclusively female for no apparent reason. A man who dares to assume that a woman's role is that of a housewife, who must work for life in the literal sense without any payment, now causes cultural shock.

And it seems we are moving in the right direction, but one thing remains unclear – how, despite these seemingly positive changes, women are becoming increasingly infantilized year after year.

Female infantilism, much like male infantilism, is a concept that we have come to associate solely with childish behavior in life. The reluctance to take on responsibility, attempts to avoid any difficulties, and a huge inclination towards a carefree and easy existence have indeed always been considered signs of an immature personality.

But it now seems as if we have taken another step deeper into the depths of infantilism because modern society not only justifies such behavior in many ways but also encourages it in every possible way.

Nobody Owes Anyone Anything

The well-known phrase "Nobody owes anyone anything in this life" is understood by many of us in a literal, yet extremely selfish sense. While in reality, obligations have always been an integral part of any sphere of our lives.

It turns out that we continuously lie to ourselves, assuring ourselves that we should do something for someone else out of a single desire, and everything else is, so to speak, violence.

The same situation occurs with the notorious personal boundaries that women now set up in such a way that no one, not even the most wonderful and loving man, can penetrate them. And as soon as it is at her discretion – one can confidently point out abuse to a partner.

The reluctance of modern girls to rush into marriage is completely understandable, as is the direct association of marriage with endless domestic responsibilities, most often from the woman's side. It is no coincidence that surveys conducted among divorced women showed that after separation, the lives of former wives became significantly easier, even despite having children in the family.

However, on the other hand, truly happy marriages do not break apart, which means that those couples have somehow learned either to distribute responsibilities properly or to reduce their focus on what they must do, what they sacrifice, or what they must concede.

In simpler terms, happy women do not possess infantilism to the extent that they are constantly dissatisfied.

Victim of Marital Circumstances

From this perspective, infantilism serves as an ordinary social mask that is convenient for those who are used to being victims of circumstances.

We are shown an artificial beautiful life from all angles – one where there is no need to strain, where everything happens with a snap of the fingers, and everyone is so carefree and successful that our hearts ache with envy.

So actively that we sincerely begin to believe in this picture. And when we do not have such a life or our life is filled with constant difficulties, it means that the one who does not provide us with this life is to blame – naturally, this refers to a man. Most of us may never realize that such confidence is a real bubble.

In simpler terms, female infantilism today is a complete unwillingness to accept any difficulties in life, even the simplest ones.

Some women, for example, easily get divorced, complaining that their husband is unable to provide them with the life they "deserve." Others try to jump from one maternity leave to another to avoid going to work and never having to deal with financial matters.

However, such behavior ultimately leads to absolute insecurity in life, dependence on a man, and a banal weakness and instability of the psyche, where it is much easier for an adult to remain a perpetual victim in this life than to take on obligations and overcome difficulties, simply because these difficulties and obligations are life itself.