You're Not Maleficent: 5 Reasons Why Getting Revenge for Cheating Is a Terrible Idea (Even If You're Dying to Do It)

You don’t go back to kick a trash bag once you’ve taken it out, right? Same rule applies to your ex.

You don’t go back to kick a trash bag once you’ve taken it out, right?
Same rule applies to your ex.

Cheating hurts. It’s cruel, cowardly, and catches you off guard.
It’s like getting slapped — not with a hand, but with a hammer.
In that moment, you want everything at once: to cry, disappear from social media, get a new haircut — and, of course, get revenge. On him. On her. On all of them.

But hold up. Take a breath. And read these five reasons why revenge is, honestly, the worst thing you could invest your energy in.

Revenge keeps you emotionally chained

When you’re planning how to “make them pay,” you’re not letting go — you’re reliving.
Over and over. You’re not moving on; you’re simmering in the same stew, only now you’re both the chef and the taste tester.

But you could be free. Breathing. Living again.

Expectation: triumph. Reality: an odd emptiness

You think revenge will feel like closure. But it’s like eating cake on a strict diet — sweet for a second, then guilt, heaviness, and regret roll in.
Instead of “I won,” it turns into, “What the hell did I just do?”

Real justice doesn’t come with yelling. It comes in silence — when you’re simply living better.

You’re opening Pandora’s box — and it’s labeled ‘drama’

Let’s say your revenge works. Now what?
Will he repent, shave his head, and join a monastery? Doubt it.
More likely? He starts a war: posts, gossip, a new girlfriend just to get under your skin.

And instead of the chapter called “You and Your New Life,” you get stuck in a soap opera titled “Revenge & Resentment: Endless Season.”

Your reputation isn’t elastic

People forget who hurt who first.
But your reaction — especially if it’s explosive — will be remembered.
It may not be fair, but do you really want to be the one explaining later: “I was just really emotional”?

Be the woman who walks out of the fire — not in ashes, but with wings.

You’re accidentally giving the cheater a free pass

Here’s the twist: you want to humiliate them, but seeing your retaliation, they think, “Guess I was right to leave.”
Yes, it’s messed up — but that’s how ego works. They forget your pain, and only remember your meltdown.

Suddenly, they’re not the villain anymore — they’re the victim.

Don’t give them that. Let them sit with their guilt — alone.