5 Signs a Man Is Trying to Change You: Should You Tolerate It?

Relationships are about finding a balance between accepting each other and making reasonable changes for mutual happiness. But if your partner seems determined to reshape you into his ideal, it’s time to ask yourself: is this love or a form of control?

Relationships are about finding a balance between accepting each other and making reasonable changes for mutual happiness. But if your partner seems determined to reshape you into his ideal, it’s time to ask yourself: is this love or a form of control? Here are 5 signs he might be trying to change you.

Your belongings “accidentally” disappear

Did he throw out your favorite sweater or break a cherished accessory, explaining it as a clumsy mistake? This could be a subtle way of showing he doesn’t like your style or tastes.

He criticizes your decisions

Disagreeing is normal, but if he constantly points out your mistakes and insists you’re always wrong, it’s a red flag.

Gifts you never asked for

He loves giving you things that seem perfect... for him. You love pastels, but he keeps buying you bright red dresses? He may be trying to impose his vision of you.

He compares you to others

Does he gush over celebrities or ex-girlfriends and make you feel like he wishes you were more like them? This is disrespectful and a clear attempt to change you.

He ignores your requests

If your wishes are ignored while his demands become more unreasonable, it’s a sign of an unbalanced relationship.