5 Things You Should Definitely Avoid Immediately After Intimacy

After an intimate act, it might feel like everything is over and you can return to your usual activities. But in reality, “bed exercises” don’t end with the warm-up of foreplay—they also require a proper cool-down. How can you finish intimacy in a way that doesn’t ruin the moment for you or your partner?

Getting dressed and disappearing immediately

Running for the door and vanishing into the sunset is a classic example of bad manners. Even less dramatic “escapes,” like rushing to cook dinner or check your phone, can hurt your partner. During sex, oxytocin—the bonding hormone—is released, creating a desire for closeness and cuddling. Take a few moments in each other’s arms, breathe deeply, and enjoy the moment.

Grabbing your phone

Even if you’re lying next to your partner, focusing on your screen destroys intimacy. Scrolling social media or responding to messages right after orgasm is not a good idea. Exception: if there’s a real emergency… but in real life, that’s rare.

Rushing to the shower with disgust

Hygiene is important, but abruptly “washing away” your partner’s traces can feel offensive. Taking a shower is fine, but it’s better to do it gently, without showing disgust, so as not to hurt their feelings.

Starting serious conversations

Euphoria after orgasm is not the best time to discuss important matters. Let your partner relax and enjoy the sensations before returning to rational thought.

Criticizing or evaluating

Even if there are points for improvement, discussing them immediately after orgasm is a bad idea. It’s far more important to share your feelings about how good it felt, while suggestions for improvement can wait.