He's close, but not with you: 7 worrying signs of "almost relationships" where you lose yourself

Sometimes he sends you sweet messages. Sometimes he disappears. Sometimes you’re together, but mostly you’re alone, hoping it will soon become serious.

Sometimes he sends you sweet messages. Sometimes he disappears. Sometimes you’re together, but mostly you’re alone, hoping it will soon become serious. You kind of feel like a couple — but without words, without plans, without guarantees. Welcome to the world of situationships, orbiting, and other forms of “almost relationships” — where romance is minimal and anxiety is at its peak.

On the outside, it looks like closeness. Inside, there’s chronic uncertainty: “Does he like me?”, “Why is everything so confusing?”, “Maybe I’m asking too much?”. The answer is simple: you’re in a relationship that basically doesn’t exist.

Let’s be honest. Below are 7 signs he never truly planned to be with you. And that it’s time to stop saving this “almost” and start choosing yourself.

Talking about the future gives him an allergic reaction

The moment you start talking about “tomorrow,” he changes the subject, makes a joke, or gives a vague “we’ll see.” “I don’t like planning,” “I live in the moment,” “Why ruin everything with talks?” — classic lines. But in reality, it means: he doesn’t see you in his future. And honestly, he doesn’t even want to look at a future where you’re both involved.

He disappears without explanation and comes back with a meme

One moment he’s there. Then he’s gone. Then he suddenly writes like nothing happened. It confuses you: he didn’t leave, so is everything okay? No. That’s orbiting — he keeps you in his reach without getting closer or letting go. So you’re always “there” if he ever feels lonely.

He shows up only on his own schedule

He doesn’t call when you’re down. Doesn’t ask how your day went. But at 12:17 AM he texts, “Not asleep?” — when he’s bored or lonely. He’s there when he needs you. And when you need him — he’s not. This isn’t a relationship. It’s convenience, and you’re just an option.

He only initiates meetings with a hint of sex

Want to go for a walk? He’s busy. Watch a movie? No chance. But “What are you doing tonight?” — that’s always possible. Meetings without meaning, conversations, or support. Just passion — and only if it doesn’t interfere with his plans. If you feel like a temporary distraction — that’s exactly what you are.

Sweet words are just empty packaging

He says: “You’re special,” “It’s different with you,” “I’ve never trusted anyone like this.” Sounds like a confession, but in fact — it’s just smoke and mirrors. Because there’s no action behind it. No support. No initiative. No real steps. Words are a cheap substitute for real closeness if they aren’t backed by deeds.

He stubbornly avoids definitions and status

“Why label it?”, “Why rush?”, “We’re fine as we are” — you’ve heard it all. But really, he likes it this way — so you don’t know what you are to him. No label means no commitments. He gets attention, warmth, support — without giving anything back. This isn’t freedom. It’s a one-sided game.

You’re constantly anxious

You watch every reaction from him. Wait for messages. Wonder if you were “too clingy.” Healthy relationships have one marker — you feel calm. In “almost relationships,” it’s the opposite. Constant tension, guessing, waiting. This isn’t love. It’s anxious attachment.