The Illusion of Equality in the Family: Why It Doesn't Work and What Really Matters

Today, the idea of gender equality has become a trendy slogan. We talk about rights, duties, and justice, dreaming of balancing family roles.

Today, the idea of gender equality has become a trendy slogan. We talk about rights, duties, and justice, dreaming of balancing family roles. However, behind this aspiration lies a myth: total equality will not only fail to solve problems but may be the beginning of the destruction of family relationships. Why? Let’s analyze.

When Equality Becomes a Tug-of-War

The distribution of responsibilities within the family often becomes a source of disputes. Women complain that they have to do more: work, children, household chores. Men, on the other hand, claim that their contribution in terms of earned money is undervalued. The result—an endless tug-of-war.

But the problem isn’t rooted in gender stereotypes or cultural norms. The issue is that many people take on more than they can handle to prove their "value."

Try to answer honestly: does the 50/50 system, where both partners share all responsibilities equally, guarantee happiness? As practice shows, the opposite is true: it leads to a decrease in the quality of both work and household duties and relationships.

Natural Differences Should Not Be Ignored

Nature did not make us equal. Men and women have different physiological and psychological traits that make them better suited for certain tasks.

A man: excels in tasks that require concentration and physical endurance. He can take responsibility for financial stability.
A woman: possesses empathy and an acute emotional perception, which helps her care for children and create a nurturing home environment.
These differences are not a reason for discrimination but the key to harmony. Instead of fighting against nature, it is important to use it as a resource.

How the 30:70 Formula Works

Psychologists have long proposed a simple but effective formula for dividing responsibilities: 30:70.

A man devotes 70% of his time to work and the remaining 30% to family.
A woman, on the other hand, devotes 70% of her time to family responsibilities and 30% to her career.
This system helps avoid exhaustion and allows each person to focus on what they do best. Breaking this balance, on the other hand, creates tension and conflict.

Why Equality Is a Myth

The 50/50 system sounds good in theory, but in practice, it leads to average quality in everything. Work and household chores are done "half-heartedly," children receive less attention, and both partners feel fatigue and dissatisfaction.

Imagine this situation: a father, overwhelmed by household duties, cannot work at full capacity, while the mother, torn between the office and the children, constantly feels anxiety and guilt. In the end, both are unhappy, and the family is at risk of falling apart.

What Really Matters

True harmony in the family does not lie in equality but in a rational division of roles. Forget what the "man must" or "woman must" do. Find a system that works for your family.

• Speak openly about your needs and capabilities.
• Acknowledge each other's contributions and express gratitude.
• Delegate responsibilities that can be entrusted to others, whether for cleaning or helping with children.

Every family is unique, and it is important to find a balance based on love, respect, and understanding, rather than trying to conform to fashionable norms.