6 Situations When You Should Say "No"... to Yourself. Yes, You, Darling!

We’ve all learned how to say “no” to others — toxic coworkers, always-asking friends, clingy dates. But there’s someone even trickier to deal with… yourself.

We’ve all learned how to say “no” to others — toxic coworkers, always-asking friends, clingy dates. But there’s someone even trickier to deal with… yourself. More precisely, your inner self — the one who knows how to convince, sabotage, procrastinate, stuff éclairs in your mouth, and drag you into yet another emotional mess. Time to break the cycle. Here are 6 situations when you need to say a firm, loving, but unapologetic “no” to yourself.

No, I’m not putting this off until tomorrow

Because “tomorrow” is that sneaky day that never comes. And “later” is just another word for “never.” Start now. Not on Monday. Not with a “new life.” Just take one action. Like closing TikTok.

No, I don’t deserve to be in toxic relationships

Are you friends with someone who makes you want to cry after every hangout? Living with someone who “jokes” that you’re dumb? That’s not “normal.” That’s not “my fault.” That’s a big red flag. Let it go. And say, “I’m more interesting on my own.”

No, I’m not buying those sparkly heels I’ll wear once

Because I’ll end up eating instant noodles for two weeks and wondering, “Why?” Impulse buys are like impulsive flings — you almost always regret them the next morning. Financial freedom, though? That’s a quiet little “yes” to your real self.

No, I’m not skipping that workout

Because my body is my home. And homes need to be cleaned, aired out, and fixed when something creaks. Sure, I feel lazy sometimes. But I don’t skip brushing my teeth, do I? Same goes for yoga.

No, I’m not eating another pastry “just because I’m sad”

Because sadness won’t go away with sugar. But jeans sure will get tighter. Better options? Hugs, a bubble bath, and a playlist of sad songs. Boom — you’re already the star of your own movie.

No, I’m not comparing myself to Masha on Instagram

Because Masha has filters, Photoshop, and a life curated like a storefront. You have reality — messy hair in the morning and genuine laughter. This isn’t a competition.