Daily Habits That Kill Your Sexual Desire

For most of us, during our student years, this seemed unreal, but sometimes sexual desire can fade.

For most of us, during our student years, this seemed unreal, but sometimes sexual desire can fade. And while some people are perfectly fine with it (there's so much time freed up to focus on other things!), many women struggle with low libido and long to want sex again.

The cause of decreased sexual desire can be somatic changes—hormonal problems or issues with certain organs, the use of certain medications—or psychological disorders. So if you're concerned about your libido, be sure to consult with your therapist. If everything is okay, pay attention to your daily habits—because the devil of desire hides in the routine.

The Habit of Sleeping Less Than You Need

Yes, we all do this because we want to accomplish as much as possible and avoid spending a third of our day sleeping. However, studies confirm that there is a direct connection between sleep quality (and quantity) and sexual desire in women: when the body is tired, it doesn't feel like exerting itself (especially when the reward of orgasm is not guaranteed). So, before diving into the issues of your desire, try simply getting enough sleep for a few days.

Excessive Workload

When you take on too much, anxiety and stress enter your life. And they ruin everything—from physical health to psychological well-being. On a physiological level, anxiety and overwork lower levels of estrogen and testosterone, which are the foundations of sexual desire and arousal. Also, when you're thinking about the next work project or carefully planning the next day, there’s no room in your mind for thoughts of sex.

Eating Habits

Fast food, foods high in salt and sugar, and other components of a harmful diet can alter hormonal balance. And anything that affects hormonal balance can impact sexual desire. Of course, ordering pizza a few times a week or going to McDonald's won't be a problem. However, if you're concerned about reduced sexual desire, it’s worth objectively assessing your diet.

Lack of New Experiences

If you ask anyone about the cause of sexual decline in long-term relationships, most will mention boredom and monotony. And that’s true! However, beyond variety in sex, it’s important to have variety in life as well. Fortunately, there’s a ready recipe: try testing something new each week (a new dish, a new activity, or at least a new route home), and initiate an adventure every month (it’s not necessary to travel to another city; the important thing is to change the environment).

Poor Communication with Your Partner

This is probably the broadest category, as it includes both overall relationship satisfaction and specific words or phrases that can destroy even the strongest desire. Sex is always about context, and when we talk about a couple, the context here is particularly important. If you’re only talking to your partner about logistics and household matters and can’t express what worries you in sex or the relationship, that lack of communication will continue to drag on in your interactions—right into the bedroom (or other places where you have sex).

Sometimes, to change something significant in your life, you just need to start with small steps: go to bed a little earlier, take a bath with a book instead of watching TikTok, sign up for yoga (and actually go!). These small actions can bring desire and satisfaction back into your life, and you definitely deserve them!